How to be a bad girl in bed

How to be a bad girl in bed

Who doesn't have the urge to be bad sometimes? From flirting with naughtiness to full-blown bonking badness, we all need to indulge sometimes. If your darker side needs some coaxing out, click on for a wealth of tips from How to be a Bad Girl In Bed by Lisa Sweet (Carlton Books) , trust us, you and your man will love your new-found badness. Say goodbye to your angelic qualities, it's time to channel your devilish side.

Lose the ratty underwear

Bad girls know that slipping a silky something over your derriere and frontierre and everything in between makes you feel oh so down and dirty good. If you don’t have a g-string handy at least put something on other than those dingy briefs with the frayed elastic. You want your underthings that will make you more, not less, likely to indulge your bad girl, and go for it when you run into a smokin’ specimen

Get chatty

Mix Suggestive words with dual meanings into normal conversation. Ask him for a backrub because his neck is stiff. Or have him help you fill in a crossword puzzle that’s too hard. Tell him you’ll be late at work because you’re tied up. Complain that the weather makes you so hot. Talk about the amazing positions you did in yoga

When he doesnt call

If a bad girl is in the mood, they may call him. But she might also call someone else. What she doesn’t do is think that him not calling means she is ugly, undesirable or unsexy. She knows her worth and doesn’t lay all her bets on one single guy. Which is why, if he does call, she isn’t necessarily hang-up-the-phone unavailable. This isn’t about playing hard to get – it’s about playing hard. Simply put, she has a life of her own

Getting undressed

Sensual sex, sultry seductress-style, is possible only if you can first appreciate and enjoy your own body. What this means is lightening up on the self-criticism. Bad girls love their bodies, kinks and all. Do whatever it takes to feel your sexiest, be it a pedicure, getting waxed, lathering up in lotion everyday or having a weekly massage

Be demanding

Say the words, “I want”, “I need”, “Put it in now”, “Slow down”, “Speed up”. Sex is about the only time a guy will happily follow directions

Dont wait

Bad girls don’t wait for the right moment to seduce his boys. Strike when an opportune moment arises – or make it happen. Unzip him when he’s trying to talk on the phone (preferably to his mother or boss), while he’s driving (give it two minutes before demanding that he pulls over so you can finish off the job properly) or just after he has emerged fresh and fragrant from the shower

Strip

Flaunt your so-fab stuff with a private strip show. Leave the lights on and choose a va-voom tune to take each item of clothing off, slowly, one by one. Crank up the carnal temperature with a squirming lap dance

Pantless

Go take your panties off in the bathroom – but don’t stop there. Put them in his pocket, invite him to play footsy between your legs or drop your napkin and ask him to pick it up, making sure he gets a good view when he leans over

Get carnal

Let your inner sex kitten out. You want it, you like it and enjoy it, so why hide it? Touch, kiss and caress to your libido’s delight. And when you say good night, leave him happy and horny with a kiss on the lips and a squeeze of his family jewels

Be casual

Bad girls act on desire, not what-ifs. They know that sex is sex and not a statement about the relationship. Not that they’re casual about their pleasure – they just realise that having an orgasm with a man doesn’t mean you’re destined for a grand romance

Play rough

Bad girls know how to throw in an unexpected squeeze, pinch, tug or nibble. Playing rough sends an instant message to his brain that you’re a wild wench and he is your he-man

Hit the switch

Bad girls know where his secret orgasm switch is – and how to flick it. Midway between the base of his penis and his butt is a smooth patch of flesh known as the perineum. Using strong pressure, massage it in a clockwise motion while squeezing hard on his shaft. Hold on tight!

Be unchivalrous

Do whatever it takes to get what you want in bed. If that means holding him off until you are ready, sending him south of your border, using a vibrator, flipping him on his back so you’re on top, go for it. Don’t worry – he’ll be just as excited, knowing your moves are tipping you over the edge

ake charge

Sit on his chest with your back to him and your bottom close to his chin. Focus on his gentials, bringing him to the brink of orgasm and then back again with your hands and mouth. Now, rearrange your position slightly so your nipples and cleavage can become involved in the action, too. To stimulate yourself, rock between his collarbones (careful not to strangle him!) and then, when the time is right for you, wriggle forward and without turning around, let him enter you

Take a compliment

If a guy says, ‘God, you have an awesome [body part]!’a bad girl smiles and shakes said body part – she doesn’t deny or giggle and cover it up