How To Sustain Sex Longer And Give Women Amazing Orgasms
Giving an orgasm is at the top of the list for most guys, but many guys don’t know how. Here is a simple, powerful way to give an orgasm and sensational sex!
Emotional distress. Lower self-image. Relationship breakdown. Marriage on the rocks. Sexual infidelity. These are REAL problems that many men have to go through when they persistently suffer from premature ejaculation. And you know that if you can’t last long enough, you’re sure as heck not going to give her a great orgasm. While PE is twice as common as its other “cousin” – erectile dysfunction – it is FAR less understood by the majority of men. If you are keen to get a handle on your early ejaculation problem, you will want to read keep reading and learn one powerful way to delay YOUR orgasm so she can get hers.
The Preeminence Of Sexual Endurance
Many men equate sexual endurance as the prerequisite for giving women sensational sex. That is true to a large extent. In fact, many women complain that their partners aren’t lasting long enough to sexually fulfill them. And we probably know too well ofrelationships that have been torn apart because the man persistently ejaculates too early.
The Illusion Of The Magic Number
Premature ejaculation is when a man ejaculates earlier then desired. For 25 to 40 percent of men worldwide, this typically means a male orgasm occurs within 2 minutes during vaginal penetration. That said, many men focus too much on the specific duration they should last. They fret over the fact that they cannot last like porn actors do. The simple truth is, sex that lasts too long can be painful and uncomfortable for the woman! The lubrication in the vagina typically dries up from prolonged thrusting.
So what’s the magic number, you asked? Simple! In most cases, intercourse just needs to last as long as a You Tube clip to be satisfactory. That means 3-5 minutes on average, not including the amount of foreplay time. And studies have consistently shown that lovemaking that lasts 7 to 13 minutes is the most desirable.
“Endurance Superiority” vs. “Female Orgasms”
Women are biologically wired to respond VERY slowly to physical sexual stimulation. That is why in general, your wife, girlfriend or partner needs at least 7 to 15 minutes of consistent stimulation during penetration to get aroused to the point of vaginal orgasm. Compare that with the short one to two minutes that bring most men from arousal to orgasm!
So, if you want to desirable sex, you should be lasting at least 7 minutes during sex… and this poses a REAL challenge for the vast majority of men.
The Trick To Overcoming Early Ejaculation And Triggering Faster Female Orgasms
Stop relying on your penis to stimulate and bring your woman to a climax. In fact, a man’s most prized member is the lousiest tool to help women achieve the big “O”! Besides thrusting in and out, what else can your penis do?
Instead, what you should do is to focus on giving your woman enough stimulation to her clitoris. It is difficult to do this with your penis, so use your fingers/thumb or your tongue instead. Pound for pound, the tongue has the strongest muscle on the human body, and is extremely powerful and flexible in stimulating the clitoris. Plus, since you are not using your penis, it helps you manage your arousal better and gives you more endurance in bed.
Proper clitoral stimulation will quicken her ability to enjoy an orgasm sooner. So give her one before you start having intercourse with her. The great thing is, when you’ve made her climax BEFORE penetrative sex, it becomes ten times easier for her to achieve a vaginal orgasm during intercourse… and in her eyes, you become the man with superior stamina that she has been dreaming of!
Why Can I Only Reach Orgasm With Clitoral Stimulation?
An orgasm isn’t always something that is easy for a woman to achieve. Getting to climax for a girl isn’t at all as easy or quick as it is for a guy – for a guy, it’s pretty much guaranteed that he’s going to orgasm during sex but not so much for a woman. In fact, many women can only have a climax by stimulating the clitoris. Why is this?
Needing Clitoral Stimulation To Orgasm Is NOT Uncommon
Over 65% of women actually require stimulation of the clitoris during sex to have a climax at all. This is the vast majority of women, and this doesn’t even count the number of girls who have never even experienced climax at all! Only a few women can have a climax with vaginal intercourse or g-spot stimulation alone. Usually, if a woman is going to have a g-spot orgasm, it is in conjunction with a clitoral orgasm.Why The Clitoris Is So Important
The clitoris is actually one of the most important – if not THE most important – part of a girl’s anatomy when it comes to sex. The clitoris has over 8,000 ultra sensitive nerve endings in it alone, which is more nerves than are present in the entire penis! It is designed for female pleasure and pleasure alone, meaning that this part of a girl’s anatomy actually has no other purpose whatsoever that to provide a woman with sexual pleasure and bring her to climax!
G-Spot Orgasms
Having an orgasm through g-spot or vaginal stimulation is going to take a lot longer than having a clitoral orgasm and a woman has to be extremely aroused and mentally and physically “into it” for a climax to happen this way. A lot of men just don’t give a girl enough warm up time through foreplay to get her really good and turned on first, so then it seems like it’s impossible for her to climax through vaginal intercourse.
In reality, it IS going to take longer and a woman needs to be FULLY aroused before starting to stimulate the g-spot. Give yourself enough time for foreplay in the beginning, and give yourself enough time during sex to actually have a g-spot or vaginal climax. Many couples assume that just because it is taking a long time or that it’s not happening as fast as it does when stimulating the clitoris that it will never happen. Relax, have patience and have fun with it!
As a woman becomes more and more aroused during sex, her g-spot is going to swell up and become engorged with blood. When this happens, the g-spot can feel friction during sex more and sex is more pleasurable. However, the enlarged g-spot also pushes against the bladder and for a girl, it can feel like she needs to pee. Thinking that she’s going to wet the bed during sex is enough to turn her off completely and make her want to stop.
Avoid this by having her go to the bathroom before having sex. Then, when she starts to feel like she has to urinate, you can both be confident that this isn’t a real urge to use the restroom – it’s simply the g-spot enlarging and pressing on the bladder. You can be reasonably sure that when she starts to feel this way, a g-spot climax isn’t far off. Encourage her to relax through the feeling and ride the waves of pleasure!
Bring In The Sex Toys
Lots of women put pressure on their partners to learn how to please them sexually, but they don’t have the slightest clue how to pleasure themselves. You’ll never be able to teach your partner to push your hot buttons unless you’ve figured out where they are first, so take some time to hit the sheets with some of your favorite sex toys and learn what you really like in bed.
If you want to have a g-spot orgasm, try out a few g-spot massagers or vibrators. A Rabbit vibrator is always a great choice, because it stimulates both the clitoris and the g-spot at the same time. A lot of the time, having a blended orgasm first (both a g-spot and a clitoral climax at the same time) will bridge the gap between having just a clitoral climax and a g-spot climax separately.Kegel Exercises
Kegel exercises are a great way for a girl to strengthen her vaginal muscles and create more friction during sex. Practice squeezing your PC muscles (the same muscles you use to stop the flow of urine when going to the bathroom) when you’re just sitting at your desk at work or while walking around. No one will know you’re doing them! By strengthening your vaginal muscles, you can squeeze your partner’s penis during sex so you both experience more friction during intercourse. This will increase your likelihood of having a g-spot climax!For Ladies Only: Can’t Reach Orgasm? Here’s A Secret…
It’s estimated that about 10% of women have never experienced the joys of reaching a climax. And it doesn’t matter what type of ‘lovemaking’ they engage in. Whether it’s with a partner or via masturbation, some women simply cannot seem to find the road to the Big O.
This has led countless women to seek sex counseling and in my practice, I’ve had the opportunity to share what some ‘secrets’ that have helped countless women get out of that 10% statistic.
The secret is actually all about tension and relaxation. It may sound like an oxymoron now but read on below to know more!
The Road To Climax Tip #1: Tense Those Muscles
On one hand, you can’t help but tense up during intercourse right? After all, all that stimulation gets the blood flowing, which in turn heightens sexual arousal. The problem is some women tend to relax the muscles or tissues that contract while making love. Why?
For one, some women tend to be passive in bed. But let me assure you the days of ‘lying there and receiving it’ are over. If you want an orgasm, you better get up there and participate! And yes, tense your muscles while you’re at it.
For example, while in the woman on top position, squeeze your pubococcygeus muscles (PC muscles). These are the same muscles you use when you try to stop the flow of your pee. By contracting these muscles, not only are you giving your man pleasure by gripping his penis, you are also increasing the friction between your genitals, thereby increasing sexual pleasure (which is supposed to push to you a wonderful climax).
The Road To Climax Tip #2: Relax Your Mind
The relaxation part comes in the form of letting go of your thoughts. We women can be so BUSY up there! Seriously, do you really have to make a mental note that you need to pick up something from the dry cleaners tomorrow while riding him now?!?
So free your mind, relax, and just let the erotic pleasures that sex bring you wash over you.
If relaxing is hard for you, take cue from the silent radio technique that’s employed a lot in area where people have to fall in line. Notice that electronic billboard that shows snippets of news from left to right? It draws your attention to it doesn’t it?
So, next time you make love, plaster that electronic billboard in your mind with sentences like “omg… his penis is REALLY hitting it now!” or “here it comes, here it comes, here it comes!”. By focusing your thoughts on the pleasures that are ravaging over your body, you’ll hopefully be able to finally experience a climax.
Rmember, to reach the Big O, tense your muscles but relax your mind. Doesn’t sound like an oxymoron at all, does it?
The Male G-Spot: How To Find And Stimulate The Prostate Gland (Video)
Believe it or not, men have a sort of “g-spot” too, and when stimulated, it can bring him explosive, amazing orgasms – we’re talking the kind he’s never had before. The male g-spot is called the prostate gland and it’s not at all difficult to find and stimulate. When you do, he’ll beg you for more! There are a few things to keep in mind before you stimulate his prostate gland and when you do, such as making sure he’s into it first (itis easiest to stimulate from inside the anal cavity) and using a good lube. Here’s how to find and stimulate your partner’s prostate gland and have him writhing in carnal pleasure!
The Male G-Spot Is His Prostate Gland
The male g-spot is called the “prostate gland” and is located about 2 inches inside the anal cavity on the top. That means when you’re facing him, you can insert your finger, feel along the top wall of his anal cavity and you should feel a small, chestnut sized “bump” of flesh. This is the prostate gland. It is often best stimulated with a “come hither” motion if you’re using your finger, meaning that once you locate the prostate gland, move your finger in a motion as though you were telling someone to “come here.” You can also use side to side movements or simply place your finger on the prostate gland and apply firm pressure. Different guys like different things here, so make sure to experiment to find out what he likes best.
Is He Interested In Prostate Play?
Before you get super excited about giving him an amazing orgasm and slip your finger in his anus to stimulate his prostate gland, you need to make sure he’s into it first. This is not something you want to surprise him with, because a lot of guys are a little squeamish about their anuses. Some guys are a little homophobic and feel that any anal play (on him, not on you of course) is considered “gay” and if this is the case, he may want you to stay as far away from his backdoor as possible. You can also slowly introduce him to the idea of prostate stimulation without inserting anything into his anus by playing with his perineum during a blowjob. The perineum is the skin in between his testicles and his anus, and it can be stimulated with firm, kneading pressure. This indirectly massages the prostate gland and will give him an idea of how pleasurable prostate stimulation can be, but it is nothing at all like direct prostate stimulation. If he seems to like it, inch your hand closer to his anus and see what he does. If he doesn’t seem uncomfortable, play with his anus a little as you’re applying lube to the opening. If at any point he stops you, prostate stimulation may not be for him.
Stimulating The Prostate Gland With Sex Toys
Many sex toys are made specifically for prostate stimulation and can often be easier to use than your finger once you’ve located the prostate gland. Don’t try to use a sex toy the first time, because it will be more difficult to feel the prostate gland and know you’re in the right spot. Prostate massagers are often thin with a bulbous tip that is angled to properly reach the prostate gland. Other prostate sex toys include butt plugs – which range from large to very, very tiny – and glass sex toys or vibrators. Make sure that any anal sex toy you use is made with a wide base or a ring at the end that will prevent the toy from slipping inside the anus and getting lost.
Using The Right Lubricant
Anal play is not to be had without a good sexual lubricant – and a lot of it! The anal cavity does not lubricate itself and as a result, anal sex without lube can be painful and may even cause some of the delicate tissues down there to tear and bleed. Not cool! You can make anal play and prostate massage more comfortable and pleasurable by applying a very generous amount of lube to the outside of the anus, your fingers and whatever sex toy you choose to use. Feel free to apply more lube as needed. If you are using a condom or latex glove of any kind, make sure to use only water based lube, because silicone lube will break down latex and cause condoms and gloves to become ineffective.
What You DIDN’T Know About Her Orgasm
An orgasm for a woman is totally different than one for a guy. Here’s how learning the difference between the two will make you the best she’s ever slept with.
Two Phases Of Orgasm Men Have That Women Don’t
A man has two additional phases to his orgasm that women do not: the Point of No Return (PNR) and the Refractory Period. The PNR, as you can guess, is when you have reached the point where you don’t even need to be touched in order to ejaculate.
Your body goes into the Refractory Period after you have climaxed, and you’re “coming down,” in a sense. You feel calm, warm, and tired. There will be absolutely no service in that area until your penis has had a rest. Let’s explore these phases more closely, and see how they make your sex different from hers.
The PNR is both a blessing and a curse. It happens when the semen has entered the shaft, and there is no stopping the load from blowing. Your grandmother could walk into the room, and you’d still be able to cum. Women do not experience this. Her body will not continue to through the orgasm unless stimulated. The minute you stop touching her, she will stop cumming.
She could be in the middle of a body searing orgasm, and if you pull away, that will be the end of it. Some men think this is a cute way to tease their woman, but these men are total idiots. If she is screaming, “I’m cumming! I’m cumming!” then you had better continue to do exactly what you are doing until she’s done, or she just might not let you have a second chance.
Hers Are More Intense
She may not be able to get through a climax with no stimulation, but her orgasms tend to be quite a bit more intense than yours. Typically, you bust out that squishy “O” Face for about two seconds, and then it’s nap time. Her orgasms can last exponentially longer than that given the proper stimulation. You will hear her scream, see her body writhe, and she will be in a totally different world. Guess what, she can do it again.
She Can Go Again And Again
The best part about sex for a woman is she doesn’t have the Refractory Period. When she climaxes, her body doesn’t go into hibernation mode the way yours does. Therefore, if you quit on her after just one sweet burst, you’re not living up to your full potential as a lover.
Now don’t just get her off and then mindlessly keep rubbing the same spot hoping it’ll happen again. Pull back a bit. If you wait a minute, and then go back to touching her, she’ll cum again. Plus, each proceeding orgasm tends to build in intensity. If you get her to the point where she’s going, “Stop, I can’t cum anymore, it’s too intense, “ she may just fall in love with you.
Give Her A Squirting Orgasm In 60 Seconds – 4 Tips For A Lightning Fast Orgasm!
A squirting orgasm is like the holy grail of all female orgasms. It doesn’t have to take forever to learn how to give her an amazing orgasm (and get her squirting too) – here are four great suggestions to give her an orgasm – quickly!
There are certain things you can do to make sure she starts squirting when having sex with you. Men who are able to give their women squirting orgasms hold a very special place in their partners’ heart. This is because it takes special skills and strategies to tug at both the emotional and sexual hot buttons within a woman so that she completely releases her inhibitions to enjoy the “gushing” experience.
If you want to get your wife or girlfriend squirting, keep reading for these four tips that will get her emotionally and physically aroused enough to enjoy a incredible squirting orgasm.
Get Her Into A Sexual Landscape
Simply put, find out what she likes in between the sheets! If you know where and how she likes to be touched, don’t you think that will greatly amplify her sexual anticipation? You bet she would! All you need to do is ASK and OBSERVE. Sounds easy enough, but unfortunately many men fail to do these two simple things.
Pay close attention to her sexual needs. Learn where her hot buttons are, and stimulate her tenderly at those areas… using the manner she would caress herself when she’smasturbating alone. Believe me, this will set her up for some very intense orgasms QUICKLY when the real action begins.
Indulge Her Fantasies
Any man can fulfill the sexual desires of a woman if he starts by knowing what type of men she fantasizes about. Most women fantasize about men who are in positions of power. If you have always been hesitant in the bedroom, now is the time to be strong and assertive. While some women have sex fantasies about cowboys, pirates or sheiks, all of them usually are the same type of man – one who is in control.
The “Dynamic Duo”
It is no secret that a woman’s clitoris is the key female orgasm center. And that is why most guys head straight for the clitoris in their attempts to get their partners to reach an orgasm. But here’s a powerful trick to double her pleasure, and massively reduce the amount of time she takes to climax: touch, caress, tease and stimulate another part on her body.
Once you learn where her sensual hot spots are (hint: her ears, back of her neck, her inner thighs), gently arouse her at one of these areas while you simultaneously stimulate her clitoris.
Use this technique with caution though: Her sexual arousal will escalate rapidly and you won’t be able to turn her off for a while, even if you wanted too!
The Clitoral/G-Spot Orgasm Combo
Learn how she responds and what makes her have an orgasm. Locate her clitoris and rub it in the way that she likes. You can tell this from her reactions. Put her hand over yours and get her to show you just how to do it – you cannot go wrong with this move. Once she is sufficiently lubricated, insert your index or middle finger to locate and stimulate her G-spot (which is usually within 2 to 3 inches inside the front wall of the vagina).
Proper stimulation to these two extremely sensitive areas can bring her to very powerful squirting orgasms that will have her panting for more!
How To Have An Orgasm In 60 Seconds
Relax
The first step to getting your body ready to have a fast orgasm is to relax. Most women (and some men) tense themselves up completely during sex, and when your muscles and body are tensed up, you’re actually going to have a harder time reaching climax than if you were relaxed. This also applies if you’re trying to have sex after work, or when you’re stressed out about something. Day to day life such as work, bills and kids can definitely wreak havoc on your sex life and make it take much, much longer for you to have an orgasm.
Take just a few minutes before you get started to relax. Breathe in and out deeply, and concentrate on relaxing your body from head to toe. Relax your mind as well and imagine all the stresses of the day just melting away. Have a glass of wine to help you along if you’re of age, or take a hot bubble bath with a scented candle. Anything that you do to relax before you start masturbating or having sex will help you to reach orgasm faster.
Foreplay
Foreplay is a huge precursor to having a quick orgasm. If you’re not completely, 100% aroused before you get started, you’re either not going to climax at all or it’s going to take you a long time to finally reach your peak. To make sure you have an orgasm faster than ever before, start with foreplay. Whether before masturbation or before sex, give yourself some time for foreplay and allow yourself to get aroused.
Have your partner stroke your clitoris (or you can do this yourself) slowly, while imagining things that really, really turn you on. A woman’s imagination is one of the most powerful tools at her disposal to help her reach orgasm quickly and easily. If you’re sitting there thinking about the bills while you’re partner is performing oral sexon you, he’s going to be down there for a long time before you’re even halfway to the finish line.
Instead, imagine whatever turns you on most – whether it’s something naughty you haven’t shared with your partner or even another person. This works especially well during masturbation, since you have the freedom to imagine whatever you want without feeling guilty like you might if you were imagining questionable things when you’re with your partner!
Sex Toys
Don’t be afraid to bring sex toys into the bedroom for yourself and for you and your partner. Most women can’t reach orgasm in less than a minute by just using their fingers, but it can happen easily for you if you use a vibrator. Sex toys are easy to use during masturbation, but a lot of women (and men as well) feel that sex toys are for solo play only and not for use by couples. This couldn’t be farther from the truth!
When you’re having sex with your partner, bring out your clitoris vibrator and let your lover use it on you during foreplay. This will help stimulate you and may even cause you to have a fast orgasm before you and your partner even get started having sex! You can also use g-spot vibrators or dildos to help you achieve climax faster during sex if you prefer deeper penetration.
Change The Time Of Day You Get Busy
Whether you’re flying solo or you’re with your partner, having sex at the wrong time of day can significantly impact your ability to orgasm quickly and easily. For example, if you’ve worked all day, come home and cooked dinner and then put the kids to bed, you’re completely exhausted before you and your partner ever get to look at each other and think about sex. If you try to have sex then, it’s going to take you a very long time to reach orgasm and you may find that you’re unable to reach climax at all.
Instead, wake up several minutes early before you have to get ready for the day. Your mind and body will be relaxed, well rested and refreshed, so you will be more ready for sex at this point than if you wait until later in the day!
