How To Become A Sex Superstar
Sex can be many things – it can be incredible, but it can also be mediocre. Don’t settle for less than the best – here’s how to turn yourself into a sex bomb!
Build Your Confidence
Confidence is the number one thing you need to have in your arsenal. Nothing else is as effective at feeling good about yourself and seducing others as confidence is. Instead of standing in front of a mirror picking out your flaws, check yourself out.
Point out things that you love about yourself, whether it’s something about the way you look or something about who you are. Learn to love yourself and be confident in the real you, and show the real you to other people. You’ll be surprised at what a difference it really makes.
Dress To Kill
Clothes and appearances are overrated, right? Sometimes. However, looking your best will naturally boost your confidence and will also make you more attractive and noticeable to others. So splurge on that dress you were eyeing the other day, or spend ten extra minutes curling your hair. Put a little more effort into the way you look and make sure you’re looking – and feeling – fabulous every time you walk out the door. If you know you look amazing, you’re going to exude confidence and sex to everyone around you and you’ll literally be a walking bombshell!
Explore Your Own Sexuality
Being a bombshell when it comes to sex isn’t about waiting for your partner to figure out the right “buttons” to push to give you pleasure. It’s about taking control of your own pleasure and learning what you like and what you don’t like on your own. Don’t expect a guy to find your g-spot, your clitoris or any other hot spot of yours if you haven’t bothered to find it first.
Masturbation is the best way for women to discover how they like to be touched and what works best to bring them to orgasm during nookie. If you don’t have a sex toy, now is the time to get one. Splurge on a high quality vibrator or other sex toy and lock the doors and dim the lights. Take charge of your own pleasure and explore your sexuality. Learn what you like and what you don’t like, so you can confidently communicate to any partner what you want while doing the dirty.
Learn To Please Your Partner
A sex vixen not only knows what she wants during sex, she also knows how to please her partner. You may think you know all there is to know about getting it on and how to give a guy an orgasm, but chances are, you’re not as well informed as you think. While a guy is pretty much guaranteed a climax if he’s doing it with a woman – heck, all it takes is a little lotion and his hand anyways – but there are ways to make your partner literally explode with pleasure if you take the time to learn the sex techniques that will blow him out of the water.
Take some time to check out a few tips and techniques to give your man an earth shattering blowjob or even how to use prostate massage to intensify his climax. Learn to do things that no other girl has ever done before, and practice them until you get really good. Your guy will love that you’re interested in doing new things, but he’ll also love the learning process! Make sure you have a few tricks up your sleeve for the next time you get it on.
Don’t Be Afraid To Try New Things
A sex vixen isn’t afraid to try new things in – or out – of the bedroom. This, in part, is due to having confidence. A woman who has confidence in herself, the way she looks and the ability to please herself and her partner isn’t going to be scared to bring out some new sex toys or to try new sex positions in the bedroom.
Constantly think about new things you can try with your partner, even if it’s only a little different from things that you’ve done before. It doesn’t matter what you do – it could be as simple as tugging his scrotum lightly during a blowjob if you’ve never done it before. As long as you’re constantly looking for new ways to please your partner and yourself, you’re going to evolve into a sex vixen in no time.
8 Tips For Sinful Sex
Plain, vanilla sex is good. It really is. Like a bowl of warm chicken soup on a cold winter day, vanilla sex can be comforting and sometimes it’s just what you need. But sinful, decadent, sizzling sex is like the dark chocolate raspberry cheesecake you know is going to blow your diet - but you want it and you want it bad. Instead of following your same sex routine tonight, try these simple tips to turn up the heat in the bedroom and make things really naughty.
Wear A Garter Belt
It’s true – a garter belt is the stuff that most men’s fantasies are made of. Garter belts simply say, “I’m naughty! Let’s do naughty things together.” Slip a garter belt on under your favorite outfit when you’re going to dinner and afterwards, slip it off and let your man marvel at what’s underneath. Just make sure you don’t take it off when you do the deed – and leave your heels on too for good measure. Almost naked sex can sometimes be even better than fully naked sex if you do it right.
Have Confidence
Confidence is super sexy. No matter what you’re doing in the bedroom, whether you’re giving him a handjob, a blowjob or just having sex, act confident about what you’re doing and your skills in the bedroom. Don’t be so quick to turn out the lights or bury your face in his shoulder during your orgasm. Instead, let the confident, sexy woman in you out to play.
Look Him In The Eyes
Looking your man in the eyes is a great way to show him confidence and make him see you as a super sex vixen. Instead of closing your eyes when giving him a blowjob or having sex, look him in the eyes and let him know how much you’re enjoying it.
Lick Up And Down His Body
Instead of just keeping your tongue on his lips – or in his pants – lick up and down his body as though you just can’t get enough. Start with his toes and work your way up, going as slow or as fast as feels good. He’ll love the feel of your tongue in places he hasn’t felt before, such as on his legs and his chest.
Play Innocent
Introduce a little role play in the bedroom by suggesting to your partner that you’re “innocent” and need him to teach you how to do naughty things. Bat your eyelashes and look up at him coyly, all while doing very naugty and sexy things to him down there. He’ll really enjoy showing you all the things you’ve “never done before.”
Masturbate In Front Of Him
Most women cringe at the idea of getting caught masturbating by their guy, let alone masturbate in front of him. But guys love masturbation (heck, they do it all the time) and watching you do it is the ultimate turn on. Show him how you like to be touched by touching yourself, and don’t hold back when it comes to having an orgasm. Bonus points if you are able to ejaculate! You just might open your eyes after the big “O” and notice that he’s been touching himself too!
Try Anal Sex
If you’ve never tried anal sex before (and aren’t against it for some reason) try introducing a little anal play in the bedroom. You can start small with small anal sex toys such as tiny butt plugs or super skinny vibrators, or you can use your fingers. Just don’t forget to use a very generous amount of lube before you try anything having to do with the anus. It’s definitely not self lubricating like the vagina is. The appeal of anal sex is that it’s so “taboo” and it’s something that you’re “not supposed to be doing.”
The Reverse Cowgirl Sex Position
Men are visual creatures and having something to look at while they’re having sex can make sex absolutely explosive for him. Turning the lights on while having sex is a daring but very rewarding move, but if you really want to be sinful in the bedroom, try the reverse cowgirl sex position. This sex position involves the woman being on top, but reversing herself so that she is facing his feet. Many women are apprehensive about letting their guy see all their lady bits up close and personal, but this is where a good dose of confidence comes in. He’s going to absolutely love watching you slide up and down his penis, no matter what!
6 Signs He’s Addicted To Sex
Sex is on every man’s mind pretty much all the time. But how can you tell when he’s crossed the line? Here are six dead giveaways that he’s an addict.
He Talks About Sex At Inappropriate Times
Even though men think about doing the nasty almost all the time, most men know when to keep their mouths shut about it. Most men aren’t going to try to hold a discussion about sex positions over the dinner table, but a man who is addicted to sex might not find anything wrong with this scenario. If he’s bringing up the topic of sex at really inappropriate times, such as at your parent’s house (in front of your parents) or during business meetings, he might be an addict.
Even if he doesn’t necessarily start talking about the amazing anal sex you had last night at a luncheon, he might still be an a addict if the subject of getting it on makes its way into his conversations often. These conversations may be reserved for you or his friends, but if that’s all he seems to be able to talk about with you, it could be a signal that he can’t stop thinking about doing it for more than a few minutes at a time.
He Watches Porn For Hours A Day
Often, men who are addicts will relieve themselves through watching porn and masturbating. All men masturbate – and most of them watch porn while they’re doing it – but that doesn’t mean that all guys are obsessed with getting it on. Normally, a man might only need to watch a dirty flick for several minutes before finishing the job, but a man with an addiction to sex may watch porn for hours at a time or several times a day.
He Needs To Masturbate Often In Addition To Frequent Sex
Even if a man has sex often with his partner, he’s still going to masturbate on the side. There’s nothing women can do about that and it’s completely natural. However, a man who is obsessed with it is going to go overboard on both counts – he’s going to bemasturbating and having intercourse daily or even several times a day.
Even if you and your partner are having great intercourse daily, if he’s addicted to it, you may find him masturbating on the side as often as you have intercourse or perhaps even more. Most men are able to reach a point where they feel sexually satisfied and aren’t driven to have intercourse or masturbate, but men who are addicted to doing the dirty aren’t ever going to get to that “satisfied” place.
The Need For Sex Interrupts His Daily Life
As with any addiction, it becomes a true addiction when it begins to interrupt a person’s daily life. Is your partner adjusting his schedule to make time for more sex or masturbation? Is he late to functions because of intercourse or masturbation? Does he fail to make plans with his family or friends because he’d rather stay home and get it on or masturbate instead? These are all symptoms of a serious addiction. If you find that your partner’s need for sexual release is interfering with his life or your relationship, it may be time to seek help for his addiction.
He Cheats On You
For some addicts, sex with one partner and frequent masturbation isn’t even enough. He may begin to seek sexual release from other partners, especially if the opportunity presents itself. This is in part due to never feeling truly satisfied sexually, but also because getting it on is literally at the forefront of his thoughts all the time. A man who is addicted will have a difficult time looking at a woman and not associating her with sex in some form or fashion.
He Pressures You To Have Sex
A true addict really doesn’t like hearing “no” when it comes to getting it on. Some men who are really addicted to sex can be involved with rape or date rape, but most aren’t. However, a man that has a problem might put more pressure on a woman to have sexwith him than an ordinary man would.
Your man might be an addict if he pressures you constantly to get busy with him, or doesn’t listen to you when you say “no.” If you’re constantly having to thwart his advances – especially at inappropriate times – consider seeking help for your partner for an addiction.
Dirty Talk: The 5 Hottest Words To Say During Sex (For Her)
Dirty talk is something that every woman can do, but some women have to get over their shyness in order to do it effectively. But the whole process need not be too forced, and you don’t have to memorize a line or two to say during sex. It’s the spontaneity of the act of dirty talk that makes the sex hotter.
If you think about it, there are things that you usually say during sex, which means you’re doing this unconsciously. But even moaning out your partner’s name could get old, especially if it’s all that you utter every time you make love. You can increase your arsenal of ‘sex words’ right now.
“Ram It In”
Ramming is a word that brings to mind a forceful action. Just the mention of the verb ‘ram’ reminds you of a huge timber being pounded on a medieval castle’s entrance (i.e. a battering ram). Instead of saying ‘f—- me,’ you can say ‘ram me.’
The F-word is not all that when it comes to dirty talk, particularly if you live in a place where this word is used quite often as a cuss word or as a part of a normal conversation.” Therefore, you should think of another word to describe what you want your partner to do during sex.
“Yes”
Said in a certain way, this word takes on a sexual meaning that is so profound it makes a man go at it harder. Saying “yes” during sex makes your partner feel that he is doing something good and that you want him to keep doing it. If you simply cannot think of anything to say, use this word to express your delight and to alert him that you’re about to orgasm.
My Pussy”
Hearing you refer to your vagina as ‘cunt’ or ‘pussy’ will excite your man, particularly if you’re not the type to swear or cuss on a regular basis. Instead of saying ‘touch my vagina,’ say ‘touch my pussy’ and instantly turn an ordinary request into dirty talk.
“Let Me Suck You Dry Tonight”
When you say this line, your man will instantly think of a prolonged blowjob session in which you will diligently stroke and lick him until he reaches orgasm. This is best said before sex right after a particularly long kiss, or while you’re sliding down his body with the intention of giving him head.
“You’re Making Me Horny”
Saying this line brings out the naughty personality of your man. Just knowing that his teasing is producing the desired effect makes him more excited.
It’s not that difficult to start dirty talk, especially when you’re with someone you care about. Just remember to act natural so that he won’t feel like you’re forcing yourself into dirty talk for his sake. Moreover, saying these words will convey your willingness to become more adventurous in bed, particularly if you have always been shy about your sexuality.
Top 10 Best Places To Have A Quickie (Video)
Sex can be super fast and incredibly fun – it’s called a quickie. Getting it on with a time limit of several minutes can leave you and your partner flushed, exhilarated and wanting more. Here are some excellent places to go when you want to get busy on the fly.
On A Hospital Elevator
Having sex in a hospital elevator can definitely lift a somber mood, and it’s even better when you’re at the hospital for something happy like the birth of a baby. Heck, why not practice making a baby right then and there? Press the stop button (make sure there’s not an alarm on it) and go at it. And you definitely want to press the stop button – hospital elevators are well known for stopping at almost every floor to let doctors and nurses off and on. Also, watch where you’re going! The elevator may very well take you into the morgue.
The Exam Table At The Doctor’s Office
Forget reading magazines or organizing your to-do list on your phone while you wait for the doctor to come in and examine you. Instead, hop up on the exam table and grab a quickie! It can make the wait less boring, but you do stand a chance of getting caught. Also, you may very well leave evidence – like semen – behind for the nurses to find when they flip the room for the next patient. You don’t want that noted in your chart!
In Your Neighbor’s Pool
Sex in the water is super fun, and it can feel extra naughty when you get busy in your neighbor’s pool while they’re gone. If you like the idea of possibly getting caught, plan to do it when they’ve gone off to the store or are just running errands. If you definitely don’t want to get caught (and if you want to turn your quickie into something more leisurely), choose a time that they’re on vacation or staying somewhere for a day or two and you know they won’t be back for quite some time.
Your Parent’s Bedroom
Bring back the feelings you had when you were a teenager and were trying to get some on the fly before your parents caught you by having sex in their bedroom. As an adult, you know you’re not going to get in trouble like you did when you were a kid, but getting caught can still be kind of embarrassing. For those who want a quickie but don’t want to risk the parents busting in, do it in their vacation house or while they’re not home.
On The Bathroom Floor (Yours Or Someone Else’s)
The bathroom floor is a great place for a quick romp, because it will make you feel sexy, dirty and a little raunchy! Even more so if you’re doing it in a public bathroom or at a friend’s house. Make sure the bathroom is clean though – either lay down a blanket of some kind or use standing sex positions.
In An Empty Bedroom Or Closet At A Friend’s Party
If you’re at a party and are feeling a little tipsy, your inhibitions are definitely down. It’s a perfect time to take advantage of your need to feel a little risque, so grab your partner and head to an empty bedroom or closet at a friend’s party. If it’s a wild party, you can pretty much guarantee that there are other people all over the house doing the exact same thing – just don’t be surprised if you walk in on another couple getting busy when you’re looking for a place to go yourself!
Doggy Style Looking Out Over An Observation Deck
Sometimes, you need a quickie with a view. If you live near a mountain or lake with some kind of observation deck, it can be an incredible place to get down on all fours and do it doggy style. The reason for doggy style sex here? So you can both take in the surroundings!
In The Empty Moving Van Before Returning It On Moving Day
You’ve finished moving, and you and your partner are completely exhausted – and exhilarated. You’re both covered in sweat and looking mighty fine – so why not throw down a blanket in the empty moving van and get busy? Sex or oral sex is great here – just leave the door cracked open so you can get out! You definitely don’t want to get locked in a moving van. Someone will eventually find you, but what are they going to think when they open the door and find you and your partner alone with nothing else in there?
In A Tanning Bed
Having sex in a tanning bed can be great fun, but there’s a few things to watch out for. Make sure that you and your partner’s combined weight don’t exceed the weight limit of the tanning bed. You don’t want to get busted by breaking the bed, and you’ll most likely be financially responsible for the damage. Also, limit it to a quickie, because you’ll end up with some funky tan lines if you stay in there longer than just a few minutes!
The Stairwell Of An Apartment Building
This is probably one of the best places to get busy on the fly. It has everything you need – good seating, handrails if you get really wild (or want to play with a little bondage), and privacy. Most people take the elevator in apartments, so if you sneak into the stairwell, you’re unlikely to get caught. It’s even less likely you’ll get caught if you pick a time where most everyone is in bed.
Dirty Talk Done Right (Video)
Dirty talk can spice up your sex life, but it’s hard to know what to say and when to say it. If you say the wrong thing, it’s easy to turn a woman off or offend her. Sometimes you can rectify a mistake like that and sometimes you can’t. It’s much better to avoid the blunder in the first place. Here’s how to do dirty talk – the RIGHT way!
Girls Love Dirty Talk
Believe it or not, almost all women love dirty talk. They may blush or shy away, but in all honesty, they really do like it! Some women may prefer a more romantic style, while others want to hear hardcore details and expletives. Regardless of what style a particular girl prefers, almost all women love hearing something while doing the dirty.
The right language in the bedroom will help a woman to open up mentally and emotionally, which is necessary for her to become really turned on and reach orgasm. So learning the right things to say to a woman while you’re getting it on is going to benefit both you and her!
How To Tell What She’ll Like And What She Won’t Like
Not every girl is going to like the same thing when it comes to dirty talk. In fact, some phrases that will turn a woman on without you even touching her may be something that another girl is completely offended by. Don’t assume that the dirty talk phrases that worked for one woman is going to work just as well for another.
Get To Know Her
This is one of the biggest benefits to a long term relationship or marriage. When you really get to know a girl, you start to understand the way her mind works. You’ll begin to understand what she does and doesn’t like in the bedroom and why. This will help you to find the right things to say when using dirty talk during sex.
How Does She Normally Talk?
Pay attention to how she speaks. Does she use a lot of expletives or does she talk more demurely? Does she speak differently to you than other people? Does she show you a side of her that is different than what she shows her parents or co-workers? Take your cues directly from her. If you’ve never heard her say a swear word, she’s probably going to be pretty offended if you drop the F-bomb in the sack. However, if she likes to get a little wild with her language sometimes, she’s not going to enjoy you talking about what you’re going to do to her “vagina.”
How To Get Started
Experiment with different words in the bedroom (or wherever else you like to have sex) and gauge her reaction to them. If you’ve already gotten to know her and have taken your cues from the language she usually uses, you’re probably not going to strike out here. Still, you want to gauge her reaction to see if what you’re saying to her is actually turning her on, or if it’s turning her off.
A great way to get started is to tell her what you want her to do to you. Lead by example first, and describe to her what you’d like her to do – either with soft or explicit language, whichever you feel she will respond best to. Then later, you can try flipping the tables to see if she will do the same for you. After you lead her into it, she may get incredibly turned on and start talking dirty too!
Does She Like To Talk Or Listen?
While most women do enjoy dirty talk, not everyone is going to enjoy both talking and listening. She may just enjoy one or the other. Get to know her to determine what she likes better, or if she really does like both. This is part of feeling it out as you get started. You’ll notice her respond better either when she’s doing the dirty talking or when she’s listening to you describe in detail what you want her to do to you or what you’re going to do to her.
Take The Risk
Dirty talk is a lot of fun and if you pay attention to your girl and really read her, it’s unlikely you’re going to say the wrong thing. It’s definitely worth the risk – so take it! You’re never going to know how much you can turn your partner on with dirty talk until you actually take that first step and do it!
The 3 Biggest Female Turn-Offs In Bed (Video)
Most sex advice will tell you how to turn a woman ON, but not what you need to avoid. Most of the time, sex advice will go on about techniques to please a woman, but they fail to tell you what not to do to keep her from throwing you off her and walking out the door. Steer clear of these three major issues women have with guys during sex and you’re home free.
Every Woman Is Different
There are tons of different turn-ons and turn offs when it comes to women. Each woman has her own set of things that turn her on, like foreplay or oral sex, and things that turn her off. These things will differ from woman to woman. However, there are some things that men do when getting it on that most women don’t like. When you’re with a girl for a period of time, you’re going to learn her specific likes and dislikes. However, you can be pretty sure that every woman isn’t going to like these three things:
Being Excessively Polite In Bed
Weak, wimpy guys do not turn women on. In fact, quite the opposite! So if you’re excessively polite in the sack, saying things like “Please can I do this,” or “What do you think about this” is going to turn her off completely. Instead, focus on being confident and assertive during sex. Girls prefer a strong, confident guy who knows what he wants to a guy who is constantly worried about what he’s doing or if he’s doing it wrong.
Examples Of What Not To Do
- Asking permission for everything in bed.
- Never showing any dominant, masculine energy.
- Apologizing for anything while getting busy.
Just because you’re being strong and masculine doesn’t mean you need to treat a woman badly. You can still be dominant and assertive while still being loving and caring towards her. Being a jerk towards her doesn’t make you confident – it just makes you a jerk. Show girls your confidence by knowing what you want and knowing how to give a woman an orgasm.
Lack Of Emotion During Sex
Very few sex advice manuals out there talk about how to be emotional while knocking boots. They’re mostly technique driven, teaching you how to touch a woman’s clitoris or finger her g-spot. However, technique is only going to get you so far. Women are emotional creatures, and experience emotion deeply when getting busy. It’s just part of their nature. Failing to show emotion and acting like a robot while getting it on isn’t going to win you any points, even if you can touch her exactly the way the sex advice book you read told you to.
Don’t be afraid to show your emotional side when making love. Let pleasure, pain or ecstasy overcome you and let it out. Let it show on your face and in your voice. Let yourself be consumed by the moment instead of being focused on every technique you learned. A woman wants to experience that with you, and she wants to know that she’s doing a good job pleasing you.
Ways To Show Emotion
- Make noises while making love.
- Talk romantically to her or use dirty talk if she’s into it.
- Show emotional vulnerability inside and outside the bedroom.
Going Straight For The Gold
Another big faux pas when getting it on – and perhaps the biggest complaint among women – is when a guy goes straight for the gold. He comes in, does his thing, has an orgasm and rolls over and goes to sleep. Chances are, you’re not going to get laid by this woman again. She will think you don’t care about her and only cared about yourself and your pleasure.
Instead, focus on her pleasure first. Give her oral sex before you even have intercourse with her. Read sex advice manuals and learn new techniques to bring her pleasure. Combine new techniques with being confident and emotional, and you’ll have her completely wrapped up in you. She’ll want to get busy with you all the time!
When you find new ways to turn her on and pleasure her, you’re both going to get more nookie in the end. Experimenting with new ways to have fun and mix it up is going to keep her interested in having sex with you. If you use the same techniques over and over, she’s going to get bored and want to find something – or someone – else to do. Always be learning new techniques to keep things fresh and exciting.
Blowjob Tips For Guys – Do You Put Your Hands On Her Head Or Not?
Blowjob tips aren’t always for the ladies. Men – should you be putting your hands on your partner’s head while she’s going down on you or not?
Holding Her The Right Way
Believe it or not, this can be a big issue for both women and men when it comes to fellatio. It is important to discuss this aspect of fellatio with your partner before embarking on a fellatio session both partners will know what to expect. Remember guys, every woman is different and it is important to know what your partner prefers during fellatio – having hands on her neck while she is going down on you might make her uncomfortable and may even gag or choke her.
Make sure you know what she prefers and also keep in mind that her mood may change and one night she may be feeling particularly turned on and like the sensation of her face and mouth being guided or pushed down on your penis and another night she may be completely turned off or even repulsed by the idea.
Communicate Beforehand!
This is why it is so important to talk to your partner about this before each oral sexsession! If talking about this particular aspect of fellatio before the session seems like a killjoy or ruins the spontaneity of fellatio, you and your partner may want to decide on some kind of hand signal or the like for your partner to let you know whether it is okay for your hands to be on her like that or if she dislikes the feeling at that particular moment.
A Secret “Signal”
One of the best blowjob tips to help you handle the “hands on the head” situation because a woman’s mood may change at any given moment during fellatio and if she is okay with your hands being on her neck at first but wants you to remove them later; she can do so without breaking her rhythm.
This is also great if a man begins to push her down on his penis a little too roughly – which can happen in the heat of the moment. A hand signal gives a woman the option to let her partner know if he is restricting her breathing, going too hard or gagging her. Many women will just take their partner’s hands off of them and some will even put them on if they are feeling that this would turn them on.
Similarly, a man may come up with his own hand signal or the like to let his partner know if he would like to do this. Something such as stroking her hair or neck may let her know that he is feeling like putting his hands on her head would turn him on at that particular moment. Just discuss what the “hand signal” will be before the fellatio session so that she will know what that particular movement means.
One of the most important blowjob tips is to never do anything you haven’t asked about beforehand. So this is almost like an unspoken question and your partner will appreciate you “asking” her if it is okay to do it. If the idea of a hand signal to let her know you’d like to put your hands on her head doesn’t do it for you, you can always just ask! No matter what you do, just go with the flow and make sure to communicate with your partner!
Why Some Women Don’t Want You To Control Their Movements
Well, as we said earlier, a man that puts his hands on a woman’s head and either unknowingly or knowingly pushes her down on his penis too hard or too roughly can easily cause a woman discomfort (both physically and emotionally) and even though you may like deep throating, this may gag or choke her or restrict her breathing. Although this is one of the blowjob tips to avoid, it generally is not dangerous if this happens – a woman will usually just discontinue performing fellatio if she begins to gag, choke or feel uncomfortable but it is important that you preempt any discomfort she may or may not have by being careful when putting your hands on her head.
Disrupting The Rhythm
Many women do not like having a man’s hands on them like this during fellatio because it disrupts their “rhythm” or their “flow.” They’ve read plenty of blowjob tips and can definitely get the job done and done well. A woman that is skilled in fellatio will most certainly develop her own way of doing things (somewhat like a routine) and will not appreciate you disrupting that! If this is the case, just sit back and enjoy the ride toorgasm – if she’s good enough not to need your hands on her head to guide her to please you, then you certainly are in for a treat! On the other hand, some women enjoy having a partner’s hands on her head – it may make her feel like his “guiding” her makes her efforts in pleasing him during fellatio more accurate. Either way, it is really up to the woman as to what she prefers while she is performing fellatio.
(For The Ladies) Why He Likes It
A man will often want to put his hands in a woman’s hair so that he can enjoy the feel of it’s softness and then pull it back a little so that he has the added visual stimulation of the best view of her lips wrapped around his penis, not just a mass of hair blocking his sight. Tussled hair is very sexy and being willing to let him get his hands wrapped up in it shows that little “naughty” side in the bedroom and your willingness to get wild with him when the two of you are alone.
Ladies, a clear way for you to let him know you want his hands on your head is for you to take his hands and put them there. He’ll appreciate the eagerness you are showing in letting him know it’s okay for him to engage his hands on your head and in your hair and be an even bigger part of the blowjob.
Cunnilingus Tongue Exercises That Will Make You AMAZING At Oral Sex!
Cunnilingus isn’t something you’re born good at. Learn how to work your jaw so that when you go down on your partner, you’ll be GREAT at it!
Why Keeping Your Mouth In Shape Is Important
A common complaint from those who aren’t used to these techniques, or the time needed to get a woman to reach climax, is that their mouth or jaw gets tired after a few minutes of interaction. If you fear this issue, or if it’s been a problem in the past, here are some suggestions to get your tongue in tip-top shape.
Stretching
Take your tongue and stick it out as far as it will go. Wait for a few counts, then try stretching it out even further. The trick is to move it further without moving any part of your head or mouth. Next, touch your nose (or try to) with it, then stretch it towards one ear, then the other, and finally towards your chin. With each pass of this circle, try and extend it even further out. Start with one circle a day then slowly move your way up to five a day.
Darting
See how fast you can dart your tongue in and out of your mouth, trying for the longest extension possible. Do this ten times, in and out, in five seconds, and you’ll be an oral sex master. Then, try and do the same thing, but moving it from side to side. Four minutes of this exercise a day is more than enough, and something to work towards.
Slow Circles
Purse your lips closed and try to make your tongue as flat and wide as possible. Then, try and keep it in contact with the sides of your mouth at all times while moving it slowly in circles. Contrary to the last exercise, this is one of precision rather than speed. Five circles in each direction is an excellent start, with 50 as the ultimate goal.
Butterfly Moves
Take your tongue and make it flat; use a mirror if you need to. Then, take just the tip and curl it up, then down, without moving any other part of your tongue or mouth. Start really slowly to make sure you’ve got the movement down pat, then get faster and faster until your tongue resembles a butterfly flitting her wings. The first day aim for thirty seconds of this, moving your way up to five minutes straight. This is a maneuver you want to use on your partner’s clitoris!
Curling
If you can (not everyone is able to) curl your tongue so that the edges touch. Then stick your tongue out of your mouth while it’s still curled up in a ball. Do this back and forth ten times, getting up to fifty eventually.
Establishing A Rhythm
If tongue exercises aren’t your bag, then there’s another thing to try: think of giving head as a meditative state or a piece of rhythmic music. Find a rhythm that works for both you and your gal, and then do something to remind yourself of it. Maybe there’s a perfect song tempo that you can time yourself to (so make sure to have it playing in the background), or maybe it’s a rhyming device that works for you. No matter what it is, make sure that you commit your system to memory, so that when the time comes, you can repeat it over and over again until she reaches orgasm.
